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The Secrets of Good Relationships
Most people want a happy and fulfilling relationship with their life partner.
However, the pressures of modern life, sometimes coupled with unrealistic expectations of the other person in the partnership, often result in a relationship that is far less than satisfactory.
And unfortunately, whether knowingly or not, too many people are also responsible for self-sabotaging their relationships through a lack of understanding, or because of some 'personal baggage' that they are carrying from the past.
In most cases too, it is not just the man or the woman that's responsible for the damage.
It usually takes a combined effort to put the relationship into so much jeopardy that the relationship might never recover.
Unless, of course, the two people concerned find some way of sorting out the mess that they have found themselves in.
That's where Patrick McNally's excellent book, 'How Men Stuff Up Relationships and how women help them!', can be of enormous value.
McNally, PhD, is a best selling author, philosopher, therapist and business consultant, and his goal in life is to help people to be successful.
As you can gather from the title of 'How Men Stuff Up Relationships and how women help them!', the focus in this particular book is to help people to avoid making mistakes in how they interact with one another, and to show them how to form long-lasting, loving relationships.
McNally 'knows his stuff', having, by his own admission, 'worked with, counselled and lectured to literally thousands of couples in workshops and seminars' around the world.
And although McNally points out that his book was written for a female audience, it is a book that men should read too.
'How Men Stuff Up Relationships and how women help them!' is not only an informative read, it is humorous as well.
For instance, there were sections of the book that had me laughing out loud, especially at one of the strategies that McNally uses when he feels that the person he is counseling is simply talking for the sake of talking.
The book begins with an exploration of the differences between men and women, with McNally regarding the acceptance of those differences as being crucial.
He maintains that the 'quicker you accept and understand this, the quicker you'll be able to find the partner of your dreams or re-educate the existing one'.
From there, the book goes on to discuss how men and women have changed in recent times.
That issue of change is vitally important because, as McNally says, 'worldwide, people are not entering into marriage the way they used to. The number of first marriages has been diminishing for years. You also dont need a degree to realise that females are having babies much later in life. Add to this the fact that the worldwide rate of separation and divorce continues to increase, and you begin to see that the human race is in the middle of an epidemic of major proportions'.
McNally refers to it as the 'Disposable Relationship Age'.
Just looking at the following titles of subsequent chapters of the book provides a strong indication of the remainder of the content of the book:
Who showed you how to build relationships?
How to select the perfect partner
How did it get so bad?
Bring back the romance
He just won't communicate
The number one reason relationships end
Ten steps to a blissful relationship
Of course, some relationships are doomed to fail, so McNally has wisely included a chapter in his book that discusses how to leave your current relationship.
In these cases, the two major issues that McNally's clients have told him that cause the most pain and arguments are:
1. children (including access rights and child support)
2. money (including property settlement)
When relationships break up, McNally reports that 'couples often lapse into bouts of anger and resentment as they attempt to come to terms with what has happened'.
I like the style in which 'How Men Stuff Up Relationships and how women help them!' has been written.
It is down to earth, contains lots of practical advice, and has plenty of examples of the problems facing couples, and most importantly, how the majority of those problems were dealt with successfully.
If your relationship is currently going through difficult times, take a look at what this particular book has to offer. It could just help you and your partner to find the solutions that you need.
But even if you are lucky enough to be in a loving relationship right now, there is still a lot to be learnt from the book. Reading it has the potential to ensure that the good times continue for a long time into the future.
The other sort of person that I recommend this book to is anyone who is currently looking for someone to share their life with. McNally's insights into personal relationships can hopefully help you to avoid choosing the wrong person in the first place.
For more information about 'How Men Stuff Up Relationships and how women help them!', or to purchase a copy of it online, head on over to the site of the book's publisher, Exisle Publishing. To do so now, click here
Alternatively, you can order a copy of the book through your local bookstore if they dont already stock one. To do so, quote the book's ISBN number which is 0908988869.
And to find out more about Patrick McNally, the author of 'How Men Stuff Up Relationships and how women help them!', and about his professional work, visit his site. To do so, click here